Christ_The Critical Connection

Connection…The connection with Christ defines all the other connections.

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The dictionary defines connection as the point at which two things are connected. Of course, I had to find synonyms that delve deeper into connection. They include relationship, linking, association, as well as joint. I would like to speak about our connection to the Lord Jesus Christ. Our connection, of course, is through accepting the greatest gift anyone could give us and that is salvation. My question is do you have a connection with Christ?
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Define Those Lines_Boundaries

Boundaries

Townsend BoundariesThis topic is very dear to my heart because I needed to make changes in my life and it was all about the boundaries. From my ex-spouse, my children as well as my friends, I needed to establish what was acceptable in my life. I was being pulled in all directions because I had no boundaries established for myself and yet was crossing boundaries in their lives because of the need to help them get through difficult experiences.

Needless to say, I did some research. The first book that I read which elaborated on healthy boundaries is Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.

 

Boundaries Need to be SetThis book was fundamental in helping me to understand that there were times I had to say to no. No to extending myself beyond my true capabilities and no to allowing others to impede on me things that were not my choice. I have added the link here so that you can review the book at your leisure. It is definitely another book that I will re-read as well as add to my 2016 book journey. John Townsend also has several additional books on boundaries that break down this subject into the areas that compose our lives. From personal relationships to the working environment, he shares the process on how to do this effectively and in a way that you can respect yourself and others. The key to this is that you will need to read the book but do the inner work necessary to understand where your boundaries are; what you can and cannot do as well as accept from yourself and others. It takes reflection on how you live your life and what you would like to see different.

Boundaries_Anna TaylorBeing involved with a narcissist caused me to seriously consider what needed to be changed in my life. Part of understanding the makeup of a narcissist is accepting that there is nothing you can do to change another’s perspective or behavior when it has nothing to do with you. Definitely a boundary. When looking up the definition of boundaries, it reads “a real or notional line marking the limits of an area or territory.” While we understand boundaries in the physical aspect, I had to learn what that meant in the emotional area. It was certainly sobering and when I realized that it was so unhealthy not to have these boundaries for everyone’s sake, it was an awakening moment. We do incorporate boundaries when raising our children for their safety. I did not realize the destruction I was bringing to myself until I realized and accepted that as adults, boundaries are still just as critical. I needed to establish some.

Boundaries_ChallengesIt is necessary to understand that this is not always an easy process. We get used to doing things a certain way and when incorporating change, it’s not always welcomed by others or by ourselves. It is necessary to become aware when reverting back to old ways as well as reinforcing those boundaries with others when they forget as well. However, for all who desire emotional health, boundaries are fundamental, necessary and critical to reaching that goal.

With thoughts of boundaries, the inclination is to consider the limits of the boundary. However, the healthy aspect is the freedom to do what you know you can for your benefit as well as the benefit others, particularly those you love. Boundaries allow the realistic perspective on how to truly live this life in a healthy way. Everyone will not have the same boundaries. However, the great part of this journey is understanding what yours are. Being honest and real with yourself and those you love. The process is truly challenging but the reward is certainly worth the effort.

Inevitable…Change & Death

Inevitable…such a strong word.

Change_Most Adaptable2The dictionary defines inevitable as unavoidable, sure to happen. The synonyms include inescapable, irrevocable, destined as well as fated or decreed. This is a very strong word and when I think of inevitable, I think change and death. Not in a morbid way for this post but in a way that gives understanding that these are the only things totally equal for everyone. While I don’t assume to say that everyone will die the same or live the same length of time, it is inevitable that everyone does have a limited time to inhabit the physical space on this earth and will change daily by how the Lord created us. I would say taxes are inevitable as well but some (geniuses?) may have actually gotten away with not paying taxes. It is appointed unto man once to die and then judgment. We go see our maker. Hebrews 9:27-28 (KJV): Continue reading Inevitable…!

Frozen in Time…Thoughts on my Children

Frozen in time…

In responding to this prompt, I respond to the prompt by first doing the writing exercise of writing for six minutes about what first comes to my mind when thinking about this word phrase. My thoughts go to my children as one of the items on the list.

Frozen in timeI feel frozen when they are hurting and there is nothing I can do except encourage them and even that does not seem to be working. Over the past year, all of my children have been in a place of pain, a couple more severe than the others. When expressing their pain and understanding that they are feeling their way through this journey called life, it gets difficult. I believe that there are times when they have to really experience the painful process for their own specific details about their journey. I certainly had to do the same.

The frozen part is not really comforting. It is a place of stillness that does not seem to help the situation. However, I do understand that the being still is also a necessary part of this journey. Being frozen (and I don’t like cold much less frozen), doesn’t necessarily mean that you aren’t helpful though. I was reading about being there for others and part of that reading talked about just listening. Although it may seem like you are frozen, you aren’t because being a good listener is a verb. When I think of the ground being frozen(winter), I realize that under that frozen ground, new life is springing forth. The same goes for our frozen times, unwanted but nonetheless necessary.

 

 

 

 

 

Seasons

Daily Prompt Response: Seasons

Live in the Season

This is a great prompt. Seasons…we can all look at our lives and see the seasons of events. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 describes it best. God created the seasons of life and nature. I thought the Pinterest pin above describes what we really need to do in the various seasons of our lives. I added the Scripture verses for Ecclesiastes 3 after this for your reading pleasure.
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Never Again…This Food

Never Again

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Me somewhere in that timeframe…

I was tickled with this prompt. This prompt reminds me of an experience in California with sushi. Okay, everyone has a list of things they love and while I try not to be a prude about others choices, sometimes you just know, you know. Well, the secretaries at the company I worked for got together and we needed to make a decision for lunch for Secretary’s Day. We had a decent debate on what would be a location that all would be pleased with. Well, the bottom line ended up being sushi at one of the frequented restaurants close by. I was not up for it because, well, raw fish. No, not me. However, being the only one who really didn’t like sushi, the “you need to try it before you say no” process started.
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The Path of Life

Alma Mater: The Path of Life

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God’s Hand

This prompt is significant to me. As valedictorian for my high school graduating class, I gave the speech. I remember my knees shaking as I sat waiting for my turn to speak. I remember the theme for the graduating class that year was “We’ve only just begun to live.” Of course, it will be a 40-year anniversary next year and to draft a speech includes a lot of experience and key points of wisdom to share. Therefore, it is my pleasure (with less nervousness) to respond to this post. So, here goes…
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Sudden Shifts

Some days have clouds...
Never can tell what the weather will bring…

Sudden Shifts

With a little twist to the daily prompt, this is an actual experience about the sudden hailstorm, the sudden shift in weather. Thought the story would make it fun.

The trip to the dentist had been prolonged as long as it possibly could be and the pain had become excruciating. Mom finally consented that the only thing left to do was to visit the dentist. Sienna had not wanted to go to dentist ever again because she had been so often already as a young person. At thirteen, she already had had several teeth removed and some crowned.

When they started the trip, the weather seemed to be fine even though the weather report suggested hail. Of course, you couldn’t trust the weather reporters. They couldn’t predict for sure what the weather was going to be. After seeing their track record being laughed at many times by the forces of nature. “Ha, ha! Not going to let you be right today,” says Mother Nature.
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Stats and All That

The Stat Connection

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Walking this journey…

When I saw this prompt today, I thought what a great idea. I read another blogger’s (simpledimple) response to this prompt. I read some other blogs that I follow. Continued reading and let in the cable guy for a few moments. Then, I returned my thoughts to the Simpledimple’s prompt response. One point that was mentioned by this blogger is that although some of her posts had great hits, she couldn’t pinpoint why the differences in the stats to the different posts.
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What’s in a Name?

Some days have clouds...Say Your Name Say your name or “what’s in a name” for me. I was originally going to write a different post but saw this prompt and thought it would be interesting and fun to pursue. What’s in a name? A friend and I had a discussion last year about names and how many times they seem to really fit the person. My first and middle names are Sandra Ruth. While Sandra is not in the Bible, Ruth is there. Sandra is Greek and Ruth is Hebrew. I did add my middle name to this mix.
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